Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Action 027 - Ask For Help.

Why is it so difficult to ask for help? Why are we so reluctant to let those around us know that we are struggling and need assistance? Who do we think we are fooling, walking through each day with our shoulders straight and our head held high? All the while, our mind is racing in desperation. Whether it's something small or large, we still handle it the same. Instead of asking for help, we double-down on our own stubbornness.

Oh, it's impossible to overstate the importance of Action 027 - Ask For Help. Maybe it's an easy request, like asking a friend to pick you up or drop you off somewhere. Maybe it's something bigger, like helping you move to a new home or  lending you money. And maybe it's the biggest request of all, asking a friend to listen to you as you share the details of a personal struggle.

Whatever the need, it won't go away. I know that. And when I have exhausted my own resources and knowledge base, I need to remember that friends are friends for a reason. They care about me and want to help. Shutting them out does more than just deny me the help I need. It shows a lack of respect for the friendships I have.

As I go through the next three months, preparing for a full marathon while sorting out what seems like an endless avalanche of personal garbage, I know there will be times that I will need help. And I am giving myself permission to ask for it.


  1. This resonates with me. I have SUCH a hard time asking for help. I don't know why I regard it as a failure on my part, like I am not strong or smart or resourceful enough. I am going through one of the hardest times of my life right now and I have leaned hard on my husband, asking for help and support, and he has come through for me. Not that I ever doubted he would, but I asked, and that was incredibly huge for me. It was oddly liberating, while also humbling and disconcerting and not something I look forward to having to do many more times in my life.

    But the main thing is that the sky didn't fall down on me for asking for help. I wasn't met with ridicule and mocking for needing support. So maybe one day I will realize that it is okay. And just breathe.

  2. Minna, I'm learning that it is not only okay, it is necessary. My family and friends want to know that I need them, that they are important to me, and that they really do make my life better. Pretending that I can do this all on my own is discounts their value in my life.