Thursday, April 15, 2021

Throwback Thursday - A Very Wendy Weekend

It's Throwback Thursday, and today we're going back to July 2012. Our friend, Wendy, was visiting San Diego and we decided to crank up the fun factor to 10!


Ric started everything off with a mimosa brunch.


Wendy immediately began to question her fashion choices.


I, on the other hand, was confident in my Magic Mike outfit.


Must I even say it? We're adorable!


Andrea, Kelsey, and Wendy were all smiles.


The most fabulous server, Joyanne.


One of the greatest photos in the history of photos.


Last Call means nothing when you have a private cabana.


And Ric closed out the weekend with yet another amazing brunch.


It was just another wonderful weekend full of laughs, good times, and great friends. And looking back, I just remember the whole thing as one happy moment. I absolutely cannot wait to be able to spend time like this again when the world opens back up.

And Wendy? She really needs to come visit us again soon.



Wednesday, April 14, 2021

"Feminist Men"

Another Wednesday means another chance to draw a card from my Grateful AF deck and see what it wants me to appreciate today.




This one is a little weird for me, because I feel like I am one of those Feminist Men. But I appreciate the spirit of the card and see beyond myself to the other men that this describes. And I've even called these same people out for praise in a Facebook Fan Boy Friday post last summer.

In this world, it is easier to turn a blind eye to the challenges and difficulties that other people face. And it's especially easy to ignore all that by just pretending it doesn't exist. And that's exactly how a lot of men choose to see - or, choose to not see - the way women are often treated by other men. But the good men... the men who are doing the right thing and acting the right way and doing what they can to stop bad things from happening... those men are the ones in the spotlight here.

  • For standing up to your friends and family and saying, "knock that shit off"
  • For speaking up in the workplace and saying, "you're wrong and you're way off base"
  • And for stepping up when you see a woman in danger in a public pace

For all of those reasons and more, you are making a difference in this world.

And for all of that, yes, I am grateful AF.

Monday, April 12, 2021

Meme Monday




 

Sunday, April 11, 2021

"You can't heal a wound..."



Another Sunday morning, another opportunity to look back over the week and see what lessons I've learned from my Spiritual AF cards. Today, it's all about learning to heal from emotional wounds.

Well, this one hits home for me. Staring down my own emotional wounds isn't easy. I'm much more comfortable focusing on other people and helping them through their tough times. But as this card explains, pretending something doesn't hurt won't change anything. And that unacknowledged wound just gets worse and worse.
Hey, John. You've spent your whole life talking about pain and wounds from a distance, almost as if they were something that happened to someone else. But those things... those wounds... happened and you need to heal from them. You deserve to heal from them. So let's take an honest look at what you are still carrying and let's learn how to leave it behind honestly and completely.
I deserve to be happy, and that only comes with fully working through the old wounds. It's time. And it matters. And that feels #SpiritualAF.

Saturday, April 10, 2021

Affirmators for the Week Ending Friday, April 9, 2021

 My inspiration card over the last week:



So, how did I do?

This one was slow to click for me, but when it did, it hit hard and all at once. I could see with total clarity how I have relied upon denial and rationalization to get through moments where I felt overlooked, ignored, or even less than. I chose to either act as if it wasn't happening or that it didn't really bother me. But that was long-ago me. These days, I speak up when I feel slighted or unseen. I don't need the hold habit of laugh-and-play-it-off. My new awareness and realization is that I should be valued and get to remove myself from any space where that isn't happening. And that is some kick-ass personal growth.



And a sneak peek at next week's card:







Friday, April 9, 2021

New Music Friday

Another Friday, another chance to share some great music brought to me (and then you) by the musical minds and magical algorithms at Apple. Here we go!





First up is Chord Overstreet. You might recognize him as Sam on the TV show, Glee. Mostly I remember that he's super hot. 


Anyway, he's now all about the music and has released another track called Beautiful Disaster. It's a good song that hits all the feels, so give it a listen.



Another song I'm loving this week is Focus by slenderbodies and Tim Atlas. I first heard of this group with their first song here on Apple Music, and the second track is pretty great, too.



And last but not least is a new-to-me band called oh the joy. It's instrumental and beautiful and I loved it so much that I created a new Apple playlist just for them. I'll be listening to them most of the weekend, I expect.



And that's it for this week. See you next Friday!

Thursday, April 8, 2021

Throwback Thursday - A Cruise to Cabo

It's Throwback Thursday, and today we're going back in time to October 2008. Ric and I had both just been laid off from our jobs and LandAmerica as the housing market crashed, and we were feeling a bit gloomy. Then along came Andrea and her offer to take us a cruise. Of course, we said yes!



We sailed aboard the Carnival Cruise Elation.


And by "we sailed," I mean someone else did all the work and I Just lounged around.

We were joined by our amazing friend, "Doctor" Nurse Off Duty Bridgette


We had one Port Call in Cabo San Lucas and we made the most of it.


Did I mention there was karaoke on ship and Ric just loved endured it?

Sure, this picture is in every beach and ship photo album. Whatever. We had fun!


It was a brief but wonderful escape from the real world and we all had a wonderful time. And if I promise Ric there will be no karaoke, maybe I can get him to do this again!

Wednesday, April 7, 2021

"Forgiveness."

Another Wednesday means another chance to draw a card from my Grateful AF deck and see what it wants me to appreciate today.



This same idea keeps coming at me from all directions. And I'm okay with that, because it is so important and impactful. Forgiveness has the power to change lives.

Over the last several months, I've experienced both sides of the forgiveness coin. I've forgiven someone who was truly toxic for me. I'm forgiven several others for slights before they festered to the point of affecting our friendships, and I have been on the receiving end after my own screw-ups.

And every bit of it feels good. I have zero regrets for extending forgiveness to others and for asking for it myself. I finally feel like my head and my heart are both free and clear to focus on better and brighter things instead of staying mired in anger. It's amazing how life can open up when you're looking ahead at the possible instead of behind you at the pain. Forgiveness is a gift that keeps on giving.

And for all of that, yes, I am grateful AF.

Sunday, April 4, 2021

"Holding on to resentments."




Another Sunday morning, another opportunity to look back over the week and see what lessons I've learned from my Spiritual AF cards. Today, it's all about resentments and learning to let go.

I'm all over this one. It's hard to believe that it's been nearly six months since I learned to let go of a particular resentment I had carried for fifty years. But I did. And I feel peace and contentment now instead of the earlier pain and anger.
Hey, John. When you find yourself carrying resentment towards someone else, the choices are clear. Let it go, confront them about it, or separate yourself from that person permanently. Because friends and family aren't meant to be loved from a distance. Hold them close or let them be. Either way, there's nothing gained by holding on to anger.
I'm showing myself and others by example that an angry, bitter life adds no value for anyone. And that feels #SpiritualAF.

Saturday, April 3, 2021

Affirmators for the Week Ending Friday, April 2, 2021

 My inspiration card over the last week:




So, how did I do?

This one was easy for me. I already think life is a game to be played and with as much humor and laughter as possible, so this wasn't really a stretch for me. The cool thing about this was that Ric was home all week on vacation, so we were able to interact and engage throughout the day in person instead of just through text messages. That means there were even more laughs than normal and it was wonderful. I completely and totally recommend adding a little more playfulness to your life. You'll be happy you did.



And a sneak peek at next week's card:







Friday, April 2, 2021

New Music Friday

Another Friday, another chance to share some great music brought to me (and then you) by the musical minds and magical algorithms at Apple. Here we go!



Here's another artist that I have never heard of but like immediately. She's Astrid S and the track is Hurts So Good



I have heard of Nick Box, but only recently and also through an Apple Music suggestion. This track is Winterlake and it's hauntingly beautiful. I love it.



And finally, we have new music from X Ambassadors. I've heard and like a couple of songs, but this is new music and I really appreciate it. It stays with you long after it's gone. It's called Blinding Lights and I was surprised to learn it's a cover of a song by The Weeknd. 



And that's it for this week. See you next Friday!

Thursday, April 1, 2021

Throwback Thursday - A Pacific Beach Pub Crawl

It's Throwback Thursday, and today we're going back in time to June 2015. It was shaping up to be just another Saturday until we decided to make our way to Pacific Beach and show our Kiwi friend some of the sights.

We started with lunch at the only Kiwi Bar we know.


Then we stopped for the obligatory beach background photo.


A cloudy sky couldn't bring us down.


Our friend, Sam, and an almost-smile


Sam again, this time feeling at home in Queenstown.


Andrea and Kaia, all about that Husky Pride. Go, Dawgs!


And this all has me missing the beach, being out, lazy days, and bar crawls. I can't wait for this to all be possible again.